What men dont want

WRITTEN BY A MAN!
Personally I wouldn't marry someone I don't know. You need to know what you are committing yourself to.
After all we are talking about a life-long commitment. Like the author, I also don't believe that one should be in a relationship for five years before committing without a sound reason, whatever that means. The point is: five years is too long a time for two people to be involved without any progress.
They stay in relationships with hope. My advice to all the women is: start from now and ask your long relationship partner what he thinks about you!
I am a man myself but I am sure that it will not take me years to marry a woman. Once I get a right woman with all the qualities I need, I will get married immediately. It will not take years, a year will be too long, a delay will be caused by arrangements. I also blame you women why don't you ask your partners?
There are plenty guys who are interested in you but you always tell them about your boyfriend that you have been involved with for 4yrs and you are happy, my question is if you are happy why are you in relationship for so long (4yrs) without marriage. Women are not clever enough when it comes to do a feasibility study about men. I am sure all you ladies who started relationships at the age of 16yrs till now.
THE RESULTS OF THESE DOINGS ABOVE IS LOSING A PERSON WHO MIGHT BE YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND DURING THOSE EXERCISES ABOVE.
When you are getting older at the ages of (23-35 yrs) that is when you come back to your senses and start realizing that you must build your future. At that time you also forget the basics and start from scratch. You are old now and you cannot afford to stay in a relationship for many years, you should have done that the time you were starting your first relationship.
Now ladies you are meeting those guys who were disappointed before and that is why it is like this, but all in not lost....
Ladies I have a solution for you do not worry! TRY THIS:
  * African men need respect.
  * Leave your pride away (e.g. never involve your Degrees, Masters,
Diplomas in your relationship or fancy jobs you are doing, men may feel offended if you do that).
  * Never use sex to punish your man.
 
Remember time is being wasted by doing favours for your friends (I'm talking from experience)
  * Never look at the things that cover the men or associated with him (clothes, money, cars, gold etc.) but heart, mentality, goals. A car is a liability, it must not be used to select a man.
  * Wealthy women with fancy cars are rejected by men because they mostly use them in a relationship. Men without cars hardly approach women with cars, the reason is not that they are jealous, it is because they know that those women are looking down on them. They try to redeem their dignity
  * Please, never shout at a man in public (respect)
  * Never forget that the most important thing men need is respect and dignity.
  * Women have rights but do not misuse them, remember the people who wrote them are not young, they never practice them, they grew up using old ones, they do not know how they affect the youth's relationships if they misuse them.
  * You might be wondering why your men is not marrying you even though you have got everything, maybe you do not have the above things that men want. Try and practice them it will work.
  * WAKE UP AND ASK HIM (boyfriend): What will be my future with you?
Do not take excuses? Tell him your future plans. Enough is enough ask him what he is waiting for? If possible give him your parents' address and he must tell them what he wants from you. If he came to play around with you he will never come back. You must rather stay without a man rather than wasting your time with someone who will hurt you and leave you, for how long will you live like that? Once you are able to do that you will see the future you were dreaming of.
A RIGHT MAN WHO LOVES YOU WILL COME AND DO THAT.
You ladies with long term relationships ask your boyfriends today, if he is mumbling, leave him because you will be depressed one day if you find out that he is getting married to someone whom he met within 4 months. Imagine (4years = 4months) I am just picturing how your feeling will be?
Ladies stay away from those relationships, they are 3%useful and 97% wasting your time. There could be someone out there who was going to marry you during this 4yrs maybe it was going to take him a year to marry you but you refused you wanted to stay in a relationship with no due date.
We are all working according to time (Projects, Deliveries, Purchasing, Contracts, etc.) Why Not Love Affairs? I have sisters I always tell them because I want the best for them. Some of you might not agree but I am sure this can help some of you.
PLEASE REMEMBER THIS:
"IF A MAN IS STABLE IN LIFE, IN A RELATIONSHIP, BUT NOT MARRIED, THEN IT IS BECAUSE HE IS NOT SURE ABOUT THE WOMAN THAT HE IS WITH."
He is not willing to commit to her and constantly has his eye open for something better or is waiting for her to become something better. Point blank. When he finds a woman that he is satisfied with, he will make her his wife. And ladies, sorry to tell some of you, but it doesn't take 4 or 5 years for that man to figure it out. It doesn't take 2 or 3 years either. The only reason that a man will get married after that long of a time is because he's tired of looking for something better. And trust me, that's definitely what he was doing all of those years. So if you should happen to find yourself in one of those "long term" relationships then maybe you should step back, take a look at yourself and wonder what it is that you're missing by doing favours for this man who is not willing to fully commit.
Don't make excuses to yourself and your girlfriends saying things like "Oh he's waiting 'til he gets a better job" or "he's waiting to finish school" or "he's waiting until he moves from his apartment to a house".
DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED!!
Which one of those things can't be done with a wife or fiancé' by your side? So ladies, when you read this think about your situation and that man that you are living with, or the one that you spend many nights over his house or him over yours. Think about your "boyfriend". And definitely think twice before you brag on a relationship that's a couple of years long and you still have no commitment.
Like I've said before, I'm a man and I know the situation. I've been there and I know that we can come up with some extremely reasonable excuses, but.... DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED!
Can I get an Amen??!
Pass it on to Men also, who are still waiting for their mothers approval to marry. And those who are still having excuses of their still saving. Or bare me a Baby then ill marry you.
Or hey maybe let me take time, maybe I will meet HalleBerry.
Guys you don't know what you have until is gone.
Date Posted: 164 days ago


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Lerato MasipaLerato Masipa : Dts true man..these men jst wanna sleep with us..

148 days ago
nompumelelo mthembunompumelelo mthembu : amen to dat........it lyk u have read da book "act like a lady & think like a man"

146 days ago
Victor  Lee VigoVictor Lee Vigo : lol! it will get alryt.

145 days ago
Khuliso NdwambiKhuliso Ndwambi : amen

144 days ago
aluwani mudaualuwani mudau : wow... im impressed....*SHOCKED BUT SMILING* eh ja. u r truly representin vendas. i lyk it

119 days ago
Mbudzeni Sidney MatshivhaMbudzeni Sidney Matshivha : Amen...

111 days ago
sharon matumbasharon matumba : i am really proud of u victor for ur article, only if all men could think the way u do. i use to think that men are afraid of commitment but i was wrong, they r just not men enough and laddies please! we must wake up. thanx victor

38 days ago