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1. Customers are not always right: Part 1
   
   Created by: Thomas Madia | Date: 21:01:00 PM | 21 May 2010 | Comments(4)
   
   Once upon a time there was a tavern in a small village called Itsani, business was booming, people getting drunk and enjoying themselves.
   
   
   One day a mysterious man arrived at the tavern from another nearby village called Manamani, he spent around R40 on his first day at the tavern, which was the highest by the tavern standards, the owner got excited and treated him in a special way, on his fourth visit to the tavern the man started to show his true colours, he started having fights with fellow drinkers, but still he continues to spend that R40 with each visit to the tavern.
   
   
   The tavern owner started to notice something strange on his cash register, less and less money everyday, beside the fact that he now have a valuable customer who spent more than normal on each visit, he appointed his clever son who was a second year BCom student at the University of the North, to check the cause of the problem, his son organized some questionnaires and give them to all the customers for feedback and to check the reason why they are no longer visiting the tavern on a regular basis.
   
   
   When the results came back, the son recommended that his father must ban the mysterious man from the tavern, as he was the reason people were no longer visiting the tavern on a regular basis.
   
   
   At first his father was reluctant to let go of this very important customer, but he decided to give his clever son the benefit of the doubt, 2 weeks after banning him from the tavern, sales doubled and more people from the tavern on the other village were flocking to his tavern, it turned out that he was expelled from the other tavern for chasing away customers.
   
   
   No one customer is important than the business itself, sometimes you have to get rid of few bad customers if they are stopping other customers from buying from your shop.
   
   
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2. wake up ladies
   
   Created by: Fhulufhelo Maseanoka | Date: 14:49:00 PM | 18 May 2010 | Comments(2)
   
   

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   ALL MEN CONSIDERING MARRIAGE AS AN OPTION (& WOMEN DYING TO GET MARRIED):  
    
   If you are already married, it's too late. You have already been ripped off; from 1^ST July 2007 women should be affordable to ordinary man on the street. Every man can afford to have a wife.
    
   Here's proof:
    
   Assuming a life expectancy of 75 years and that a woman's ideal age of marriage is 25 years; a woman is expected to live for 50 years after the date of marriage?
    
   Some financial implications:   Lobola is usually R20 000?
    
   Meaning for 50 yrs period of marriage a man pays R20 000.
    
   Now let's look at the short term as proposed by government Lobola Regulatory Body (LRB) and endorsed by the Congress of Traditional Leaders of South Africa (CONTRALESA).
    
   If 50 yrs is R20 000.00, then 10 yrs = R4000
   1 yr = R400
   1/2 yr = R200
   1 month = R34
   1 week = R8.50
   1 day = R1.20 cents 
    
    Eish ! Only R8.50 a week!!! ...One can even afford more than one wife!
    
   Then WHY PAY THE WHOLE AMOUNT UPFRONT WHEN YOU CAN PAY AS YOU GO...
    
   And imagine how much you can save in case of divorce!
    
   N.B. Please note that this is not the opinion of the sender, but a government's initiative to curb unnecessary rip-offs of clients under the New Credit Act.

   
   
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3. Julius Malema : From Uncyclopedia, the content-free encyclopedia.
   
   Created by: Khotsi a "Tendie n Thanyie" 8tsha | Date: 14:33:00 PM | 12 May 2010 | Comments(2)
   
   Julius Malema : From Uncyclopedia, the content-free encyclopedia. 
   
   Name: ALSO KNOW AS JUJU
   Julius speaking in public 
   
   Born: Sadly, Yes 
   
   Current age: Stone 
   
   Language: Vuvuzela 
   
   Education: He can reed and rite 
   
   Idiol: Robert Mugabe 
   
   Religion: Communism 
   
   Favourite word: Racist 
   
   Political Orientation: Racist 
   
   
   Julius Malema is the leader of the African National Congress Youth League (ANCYL). This league is for young aspiring South Africans who want to become fully fledged African politicians. He is the reincarnation of many great freedom fighters and revolutionaries from different eras of Africa. 
   
   TRADITIONALISM
   
   Julius' multiple soul reincarnation is inconsistent with most theories of single soul reincarnation, but African revolutionaries don't like it when Western mythology, religion, ideas, laws, science, health care or education are forced upon them. The sangoma[1] who facilitated the final stage of the reincarnation said that he believed Julius would be productive. 
   
   Julius despises all things Western and firmly believes they should be kept out of African society. Therefore, except for his designer clothes, his Victorian style home and his luxury German cars, he is a very traditional young African man. 
   
   Interesting fact is that word malem in Bahasa Indonesia means night and is really similar to Julius' surname Malema. Some linguists say that it's a hidden message which means that Julius wants to put South African people in the darkness of the night, keepeing them uneducated, similarly to Malema himself. 
   
   LANGUAGE 
   
   Julius Malema A vuvuzela It is uncertain what Julius' mother tongue is; for this reason it was left blank on his matric[2] certificate. Academics usually use his best subject as an indicator, claiming he speaks English. However, most of the time he speaks in what is known in South Africa as "kakpraat." 
   
   A team of specialists in the field of linguistics appointed an expert to analyse the noise he makes, which involved the reversal of the sound waves coming from a vuvuzela.[3] There is still no clear indication of his language, despite the team's best efforts. 
   
   RISE TO POWER 
   
   “You don't have to be educated to be a president.".
   
   Julius Malema won the democratic ANCYL election held at the University of the Free State in April 2008; however, this was not achieved without incident. Upon commencement of voting, both candidates were required to present their student identification, which provided them with a problem as neither of them were registered students. Being the fighting revolutionaries they are, they quickly arranged to be registered for a course at the university. This posed another problem because neither one exactly passed high school. They managed to circumnavigate this blatantly racist technicality by starting at the technical college, where Julius Malema and his opponent could find something to register for that met these essential standards: A valid course, or part thereof, that had an academical ring to it; 
   Admission requirements that could be satisfied by someone with the intellectual ability of Julius and his opponent. Julius applied for the Corruption Science & Advanced Sinecure 4 year program. Unfortunately, it had the very strict requirements of achieving an F in mathematics or passing woodwork (shop class), an essential subject for anyone trying to make the cabinet. The exact course he registered for is still unclear, but it was something along the lines of playing with clay and cutting on the line. This sounds like a very high standard for Julius, but he didn't have to actually pass the course, or even attend the class. An African student leader doesn't have to be an actual student.
   
   RECENT PERSONAL LIFE 
   
   Julius is a gentleman and enjoys fine dining.He is single. He says he doesn't yet own a wife/wives for his house in Polokwane. Despite this, Julius is a lady killer, and knows that a woman who has had a "nice time" stays until the morning to request breakfast (stale toast) and taxi fare back to Zimbabwe. 
   
   DEBATING STRATEGY"
   
   Julius Malema uses the tried and trusted African debating strategy, also used prominently by Robert Mugabe. He said he won R1000[5] in a high school debating competition, which shows that this strategy pays off. The tactic usually involves labelling anyone who disagrees with anything you have to say as a racist. The word "racist" is sometimes replaced by "Colonialist" or "European Devil", but these terms are seldom used when African countries apply for financial aid from Europe. Nando's commercial fame 
   
   The puppet in action During the 2009 elections, a puppet portraying Julius appeared in a commercial for the fast food franchise Nando's. The puppet was seen doing basic mathematics and actually answering the question posed by a journalist. These were the only indications that it was a puppet talking and not Julius himself. The African National Congress (ANC) immediately demanded that the commercial be discontinued. They argued that it was copyright infringement, as they owned the right to a Julius Malema puppet making public statements. They also owned the authentic Julius Malema, unofficially named "Pinocchio". The Nando's puppet was later sold through an SMS auction for R100 000 to an independent business. An ANC spokesperson said this was R99 500 more than the authentic Julius' worth, and viewed the expense as a silly waste of money. 
   
   THE MANY FACES OF JULIUS 
   
   Where most Politicians are only two faced, Julius Malema provides more. 
   
   *FASHION GURU
   
   Julius demonstrating a pose called thinking Malema. Notice that he is not wearing copper.Julius pointed out that Zimbabwean mines going broke after nationalization had nothing to do with nationalization. It happened because copper went out of fashion; "You rarely see people wearing copper these days." He said that farms going bankrupt, after being seized from white farmers in South Africa, was due to the dying trend of food. 
   
   -POET When confronted about an ANCYL spokesperson saying those who support white rights are racist criminals who should be shot and killed, Julius used his poetic genius to deduce that the spokesperson only meant: "Thou shalt fighteth racism as thou fighteth crime." 
   
   - COMEDIAN A large part of South Africa's population and most foreigners who see Julius Malema regard him as one of SA's best comedians. Julius Malema's public statements often takes on the form of a poorly written stand-up act rather than a political affair. Julius formulated the following witticism during the controversy over the sex of athlete Caster Semenya: "Caster Semenya, he IS a woman!" 
   
   -REVOLUTIONARY Even though Apartheid is now a thing of the past, it is still used as a great resource whenever the new Government makes a mistake.[6]
   It was during a display of this resourcefulness that Julius discovered he had to be the reincarnation of multiple Apartheid fighters, as he most definitely fought it repeatedly. He now uses his past wisdom to teach young black South Africans what Apartheid was all about and how to keep on fighting it. As a revolutionary, he helps his people through the struggle. Exactly what this struggle is, is unclear. In one of his public statements, Julius said that the youth of South Africa, under his leadership, will never let Britain invade South Africa. He shares this goal with the youth of Britain, as many of them are from South Africa and want to stay as far away from it as possible. 
   
   -SECRET AGENT It is speculated that Julius is in fact an agent planted within the ANC by opposition parties, as he possesses the remarkable skill of converting ANC members to the opposition merely by speaking in public. When the leader of the biggest opposition party was questioned on these allegations, she remarked: "Well, we certainly wouldn't want Julius to leave the ANC any time soon." 
   
   - FINANCIAL ADBISER When asked about his lavish lifestyle, Comrade Julius got rid of the pesky press by stating that he only receives a R20 000 ($2500) monthly salary. Despite this, he still managed to buy himself two houses worth R1.2 million ($160 000) each, 3 BMW's and a wristwatch worth R250 000 ($33000). This just goes to show that Julius knows how to get the most out of his salary. 
   
   - CONTROVERSIAL STATEMENTS The sangoma who facilitated Julius' reincarnation
   
   -DANGERS OF AIDS Seeing is believing for Julius and he has never seen a person with AIDS; therefore, it doesn’t exist. He shares this view with South Africa's previous president and many other African politicians. 
   
   -SUPPORT FOR ANC LEADERS UNDER CRIMINAL INVESTIGATION In 2003, as head of Cosas, Malema said that the student union would do anything to protest the jailing of Winnie Madikizela-Mandela, including "burning the prison she is locked in". This statement was not accepted well by many political parties, including the ANC, as the deed would have resulted in them burning Winnie Madikizela-Mandela to death. In June 2008, Malema made international headlines by vowing that the Youth League would take up arms if the prosecution of Jacob Zuma for alleged fraud and corruption continued. Malema said, "Let us make it clear now: we are prepared to die for Zuma. Not only that, we are prepared to take up arms and kill for Zuma." The remark drew widespread condemnation and complaints from people who condemned it and complained about it. It was settled by an agreement between Malema and the South African Human Rights Commission, facilitated by Madikizela-Mandela, that he would not use the word "kill" in a public statement ever again. Later, in a public statement, Malema said he would follow the guidelines, although it would kill his spirit, resulting in him being somewhat of a party-killer, but that it wouldn't kill him to perhaps change his ways. 
   
   -STATEMENTS CONCERNING ANC MEMBERS In February 2009, he was criticized by his own party when he mocked Education Minister Naledi Pandor for having what he termed "a fake American accent" and for being the Minister of Education. He subsequently apologised directly to her after being told to do so by the ANC, since they knew that she was sensitive about being the Minister of Education. 
   
   -OPINIONS ON ECONOMY Malema has opined on Jacob Zuma's understanding of the economy, saying that it amounted to "put a bread on the table (sic), we don't want sophistication". He backed this statement up by pointing out that Zimbabwe's unsophisticated economy wasn't influenced to a large extent by the global economic crisis. 
   
   -EDUCATION Contrary to popular belief and propaganda, Julius Malema does NOT have an education. However, he did attend first grade but was soon expelled after vandalising the school library, destroying both colouring books. He has also been cited as a "racist" for breaking all the white chalks for being...well, white.
   
   Notes
   
   ? This principle forms the foundation of the ANC, along with the Tokkelosh. He is a small hairy creature found in African folklore, stalking and harming people at night. It is believed that he will come and visit you if you do not vote ANC.
   
   (For those who find this article boring and not funny at all, the self-proclaimed experts at Wikipedia have an article about Julius Malema that may be funnier).
   
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4. WHO ARE WE?
   
   Created by: Fulu *Petunia* Monyai | Date: 11:47:00 AM | 23 Apr 2010 | Comments(2)
   
   

    

   Why do we laugh at a Black Man/African people who are struggling to
   Speak or write English and not laugh at a White man speaking appalling
   Zulu, seTswana, isiXhosa, xiVenda, siTsonga or seSotho? "We all have done this, we
   thought that Boxers, Musicians and/or Soccer Players who cannot speak
   English are Idiots (Siyabonga Nomvete, Steve Lekoelea, Vuyani Bungu, Mandoza, Bashin Mahlangu)!
   
   Have you ever thought about De Klerk who does not even utter a single Zulu, Xhosa
   word, he cannot even pronounce your name to start with.
   
   In the office they pronounce your name wrongly and you just smile
   (Mental Oppression I tell you!). You are impressed when Mrs van Wyk
   tries to speak Isi Zulu, seTswana or isiXhosa . In 15 years Van Der Merwe
   managed to learn Sawubona,  Molo & Dumela only...and you are impressed by that sickening and Lousy Crap !!
   
   Why does it never occur to You that Mrs Van Wyk is an IDIOT, a Certified Moron ...
   who is not capable of learning one single African Language!
   What is compelling me to be writing this email in English and not in Zulu, seTswana, Xhosa;
   Even though I know that all the Recipients are either MaZulu, baTswana, baVenda, baTsonga, maXhosa or baSotho?
   
   Is it because I know that you will be able to read and understand this email instantly without asking for Interpretation?
   
   The excuse "I am faster when I read or write English", My Foot; That's a big crap! You and I
   were not born speaking English but we attended English schools,"
   
   You listen to your voicemail; it is in English and how many Whites call you compared to your fellow Africans?
   
   Why do you have to cater for the 10%? You do not even have a single White
   friend yet your everything is in English. that is Pathetic, I say!!
   
   If I told you that I had a Degree in Zulu, Setswana, isiXhosa or seSotho you
   would all laugh your head off, for you do not see why someone in his
   right mind would want to do a degree in vernacular instead of  English,
   yet French classes are overflowing...Your Son or Daughter cannot even write a mere Zulu;
   SeTswana, isiXhosa or seSotho, s/he detest the language and No one should
   be learning the Zulu; seTswana, isiXhosa or seSotho by Slave Mentality!
   
   
   Nokia recently introduced a phone with menus in Zulu, isiXhosa &
   seSotho...and we think that's 'for people who cannot read/Understand English',
   Amaqaba/Barbarians!!
   
   When you phone Vodacom Service Centre you always press 1 (to be helped
   in English press 1, Zulu press 2 (Xhosa), Sotho press 3, Afrikaans 4).
   Why is it that you'd rather stammer than proudly speak your own vernacular language?
   
   That is because we are all Slaves...they got to our minds and we can't
   see it, our minds have been crippled and we will never be free until we
   free ourselves...
   
   "Emancipate yourselves from Mental Slavery, None but ourselves can free our Minds" so said Bob Marley and
   even Steven Bantubonke Biko said something to that effect!No one will free us from mental slavery except ourselves..!'' Forward this to all Africans who cannot speak any African language with Pride''
   
   IF YOU DON'T, IT WILL BE PROOF ENOUGH THAT YOU ENJOY BEING A SLAVE!!!!!!!!!!
   
   Stay African, for you are Sons and Daughters of the African Soil!!!
   
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5. Ladies, guard your documents!
   
   Created by: Lutendo Rhinah Singo | Date: 11:01:00 AM | 21 Apr 2010 | Comments(0)
   
   

   Many South African women’s lives are in turmoil because of lost or stolen documents. These documents include Identity Documents, Passports, Birth Certificates and children’s Clinic Cards. We always hear of women being married to foreigners without their knowledge; women having debts which they did not have liability to; women being declared dead and some of their money and assets were given to someone; women being arrested for crimes they did not commit because people used their passports to enter other countries and conduct crimes using these stolen passports; child grants being applied using stolen birth certificates.

   This is called Identity theft. Identity theft is a form of fraud in which someone pretends to be someone else in order to steal money or obtain other benefits. The following are types of Identity theft that one may come across if or when her documents are stolen. It can also happen to men.

   1.      Identity cloning and concealment

   In this situation, a criminal acquires personal identifiers, and then impersonates someone for the purpose of concealment from authorities. This may be done by a person who wants to avoid arrest for crimes, by a person who is working illegally in a foreign country, or by a person who is hiding from creditors or other individuals. Unlike credit-dependent financial crimes, concealment can continue for an indeterminate amount of time without ever being detected. Additionally, the criminal might attempt to obtain fraudulent documents or IDs consistent with the cloned identity to make the impersonation even more convincing and concealed.

   2.      Criminal identity theft

   When a criminal identifies himself to police as another individual it is sometimes referred to as "Criminal Identity Theft." In some cases the criminal will obtain a state issued ID using stolen documents or personal information belonging to another person, or they might simply use a fake ID. When the criminal is arrested for a crime, they present the ID to authorities, who place charges under the identity theft victim's name and release the criminal. When the criminal fails to appear for his court hearing, a warrant would be issued under the assumed name. The victim might learn of the incident if the state suspends their own drivers license, or through a background check performed for employment or other purposes, or in rare cases could be arrested when stopped for a minor traffic violation.

   It can be difficult for a criminal identity theft victim to clear their record. The steps required to clear the victim's incorrect criminal record depend on what jurisdiction the crime occurred in and whether the true identity of the criminal can be determined. The victim might need to locate the original arresting officers, or be fingerprinted to prove their own identity, and may need to go to a court hearing to be cleared of the charges. Obtaining an expungement of court records may also be required. Authorities might permanently maintain the victim's name as an alias for the criminal's true identity in their criminal records databases. One problem that victims of criminal identity theft may encounter is that various data aggregators might still have the incorrect criminal records in their databases even after court and police records are corrected. Thus it is possible that a future background check will return the incorrect criminal records.

   3.       Synthetic identity theft

   A variation of identity theft which has recently become more common is synthetic identity theft, in which identities are completely or partially fabricated. The most common technique is combining a real social security number with a name and birthdate other than the ones associated with the number. Synthetic identity theft is more difficult to track, as it doesn't show on either person's credit report directly, but may appear as an entirely new file in the credit bureau or as a subfile on one of the victim's credit reports. Synthetic identity theft primarily harms the creditors that unwittingly grant the fraudsters credit. Consumers can be affected if their names become confused with the synthetic identities, or if negative information in their subfiles impacts their credit.

   4.       Medical identity theft

   Medical identity theft occurs when someone uses a person's name and sometimes other parts of their identity—such as insurance information—without the person's knowledge or consent to obtain medical services or goods, or uses the person’s identity information to make false claims for medical services or goods. Medical identity theft frequently results in erroneous entries being put into existing medical records, and can involve the creation of fictitious medical records in the victim’s name.

   Thank you for reading my article. I trust that this information will help you lots.

   
   
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6. FALL DEEPLY IN LOVE
   
   Created by: richyrich sport car Baloyi | Date: 01:26:00 AM | 21 Apr 2010 | Comments(0)
   
   

   Have you ever had the desire to make someone fall deeply in love with you? Have you ever fallen in love with someone did not fell the same way about you? You can easily do a series of steps and techniques make anyone fall madly in love with you. The process of falling in love is based on psychological triggers that are easy to understand and apply.

   Falling in love can be compared to a chemical addiction. Luckily that chemical addiction is based on a natural high produced by the body and mind. You can literally trigger those natural chemical inside of anyone by bringing them to an expanded state. And the longer you are able to keep them in those higher states the stronger the chemical release and the stronger the feeling being in love.

   
   
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7. Governments and Religions
   
   Created by: Tibza Muvari | Date: 00:39:00 AM | 19 Apr 2010 | Comments(3)
   
   

   The constitution of our republic claims that they respect and recognise all religions of the world, and that they do not take sides of religions, but we both know that this government is taking the Christian religion, or the so called christian religion (Catholicism).

   Go into the court system of the republic, before you are put on the witnes stand, you are required to swear under oath that "blah blah blah...so help me God". and you say all these with your hand on the Bible, why not the Quran, or any other religious book of other denomination...that's being bias to christianity.

   Look at our calenders, the only holidays that have stood the test of time are Good friday, and Christmas. and none of the other religions exist. they have their own days of remembering their gods but no, the government system decided to only observe the christian holidays.

   Now tell me the government is not bias to religion.

    

   
   
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8. Use your words as building blocks not battering rams.
   
   Created by: Khotsi a "Tendie n Thanyie" 8tsha | Date: 08:16:00 AM | 15 Apr 2010 | Comments(0)
   
   
   Every word you say will have an affect on others. Positive words will encourage and strengthen other people, but negative words will tear down and harm them. You must decide whether to speak positively or negatively. Please understand that speaking positively requires a deliberate decision, whereas speaking negatively comes easily—for it is human nature. Therefore, actively strive to speak positive and encouraging words to others.
   
   It is no surprise that the Bible instructs us to say beneficial things about others: "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen" (Ephesians 4:29). Furthermore, Colossians 4:6 says, "Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt ..." Speaking positive, uplifting words is extremely important. Indeed, Proverbs 25:11 says, "A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver."
   
   In Psalm 19:14, David prays, "May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer." David clearly knew the importance of words, and so he prayed that he would speak words that were pleasing to God.
   
   We must deliberately choose to speak positive words; otherwise, we will instinctively complain and be negative—for that is human nature. Thus, it is no surprise that Ecclesiastes 5:2 tells us, "Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few." Similarly, Proverbs 10:19 says, "When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise." Usually when you "hold" your tongue, you'll catch yourself before you say nasty things about others and cut them down with your words.
   
   Lastly, it is important to understand that whatever you say is a reflection of your heart attitude. Matthew 12:34 says, "For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks" (also see Luke 6:45). In other words, your words are simply an overflow of what's in your heart. If you think poorly about others, you'll speak poorly about them. On the other hand, if you think positively about others, as the Bible instructs us to, then you'll speak positively about them.
   
   Since words carry power, make a decision to use your words as building blocks not battering rams.
   
   
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9. i see me
   
   Created by: Melanie "mme a Anza baby" Ezuru0nye | Date: 14:25:00 PM | 30 Mar 2010 | Comments(1)
   
   

   i look at me, i see doubt.

   eyes too big, would you love me if i wore specs?

   i see hunger, i want you but i cannot say.

   a see a confused girl who's to shy to let the world se her.

    i see things you cannot see.

    i see love thats locked up in a heart too fragile to touch.

    emotions all over the place and no one to appreciate them.

   i see the soul that God brought as a gift being ignored and disregarded.

   i see a heart pushed out to make way for wealth and entertainment.

   i see a girl, who's afraid of living without love,

   but not loving because she fears pain.

   i see a girl who wants to be seen.

    a girl who stands up for herself and fights to be seen.

   a see her... i see me

   what do you see?

   who do you se?

   
   
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10. Interesting analogy
    
    Created by: Victor "Lee Vigo" Mphephu | Date: 13:20:00 PM | 26 Mar 2010 | Comments(1)
    
    

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    A motivational speaker once said that the most successful people around are ALWAYS the ones who are willing to go that extra mile, focus their extra time on worthwhile goals. He used the following analogy of traffic on the highway..........

    If you observe a highway (e.g. M/NI Pretoria - Sandton - Johannesburg) you will notice the following general trend in the traffic:

    @ 04:00 to 05:00 in the morning: you'll see a few cars on the road.

    Mostly Porches, MLs/ S-class /SLK Mercs, 7series/ Z3/ X5 BMWs on the rush to airports, meetings, etc. Transporting the rich, philanthropists (so called "captains of industries"), executives, politicians, diplomats etc. These guys are living proof that money/power DOES lead to happiness and fulfilment. They just can't help their greed for more money/power.

    Ironically most of the poorest of the poor in the squatter camps (classical example Alex, Diepsloot) start streaming in their hundreds and pass the N1 to Sandton (mostly on foot and some on taxis) to be ready to serve the above. They work just to keep their minds busy and to sustain their hope.........ho pe that things will get better, hope that one day they'll win that illusive Lotto Jackpot! The pathetic wages they get are by a factor of a 1000 times not worth their effort.

    @06:00: The above cars start disappearing, and in come the C-class,5&3 BMW series, Alfas, Audis and the Land Rovers in their hundreds driven by the Bourgeoisie. These are "Rat-racers" with their MBA degrees, diplomas, plastic money and credit access. They think they've made it!
    Wearing trendy shades (be it sunny or not) and fashionable attire they portray a grand image......one common in movies, adverts etc. Take away the credit cards/facilities and in three months you won't see these cars on the roads.

    
    @07:00 to 08:00 in the morning: More rat-racers/cum-working-class steals the show in the thousands of VWs, Opels, Toyotas, and Nissans. This is also the time when more accidents happen! They all share one thing in common........STRESS! They are stressed about congestion, petrol costs, their finances, their relationships, their restructuring organizations, and the country, EVERYTHING............

    
    As the day progresses.........click-clock.....
     

    Click-clock....click-clock.....

    
    Come 16:00 you start seeing the same VWs, Opels, Toyotas, Nissans rushing back to rented hom es, shopping malls, etc. Stressed, stressed, stressed!

    
    @18:00 they get joined by the C-class, 5&3 BMW series, Alfas, Audis and the Land Rovers. Tired from Backstabbing, Skinnering, Ass-leaking and wasting time in senseless meetings! The traffic congestion becomes unbearable.........by the look on their faces, things are really BAD.

    
    @20:00 as the traffic congestion slowly abates, the GIANTS start dominating the scene again. The Porches, BIG Mercs, BIG BMWsglide through the highway north bound. With their fat bank accounts, these guys are fine.

    Everything seems to be convenient for them...........the roads are generally free when they go to/come back from whatever it is they do!

    Generally they look relaxed and happy, evident in their courtesy when relating to other road users. For them, Life is really good!

    
    WHERE DO YOU BELONG?

    
    
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11. What men dont want
    
    Created by: Victor "Lee Vigo" Mphephu | Date: 13:17:00 PM | 26 Mar 2010 | Comments(7)
    
    WRITTEN BY A MAN!
    Personally I wouldn't marry someone I don't know. You need to know what you are committing yourself to.
    After all we are talking about a life-long commitment. Like the author, I also don't believe that one should be in a relationship for five years before committing without a sound reason, whatever that means. The point is: five years is too long a time for two people to be involved without any progress.
    They stay in relationships with hope. My advice to all the women is: start from now and ask your long relationship partner what he thinks about you!
    I am a man myself but I am sure that it will not take me years to marry a woman. Once I get a right woman with all the qualities I need, I will get married immediately. It will not take years, a year will be too long, a delay will be caused by arrangements. I also blame you women why don't you ask your partners?
    There are plenty guys who are interested in you but you always tell them about your boyfriend that you have been involved with for 4yrs and you are happy, my question is if you are happy why are you in relationship for so long (4yrs) without marriage. Women are not clever enough when it comes to do a feasibility study about men. I am sure all you ladies who started relationships at the age of 16yrs till now.
    THE RESULTS OF THESE DOINGS ABOVE IS LOSING A PERSON WHO MIGHT BE YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND DURING THOSE EXERCISES ABOVE.
    When you are getting older at the ages of (23-35 yrs) that is when you come back to your senses and start realizing that you must build your future. At that time you also forget the basics and start from scratch. You are old now and you cannot afford to stay in a relationship for many years, you should have done that the time you were starting your first relationship.
    Now ladies you are meeting those guys who were disappointed before and that is why it is like this, but all in not lost....
    Ladies I have a solution for you do not worry! TRY THIS:
      * African men need respect.
      * Leave your pride away (e.g. never involve your Degrees, Masters,
    Diplomas in your relationship or fancy jobs you are doing, men may feel offended if you do that).
      * Never use sex to punish your man.
     
    Remember time is being wasted by doing favours for your friends (I'm talking from experience)
      * Never look at the things that cover the men or associated with him (clothes, money, cars, gold etc.) but heart, mentality, goals. A car is a liability, it must not be used to select a man.
      * Wealthy women with fancy cars are rejected by men because they mostly use them in a relationship. Men without cars hardly approach women with cars, the reason is not that they are jealous, it is because they know that those women are looking down on them. They try to redeem their dignity
      * Please, never shout at a man in public (respect)
      * Never forget that the most important thing men need is respect and dignity.
      * Women have rights but do not misuse them, remember the people who wrote them are not young, they never practice them, they grew up using old ones, they do not know how they affect the youth's relationships if they misuse them.
      * You might be wondering why your men is not marrying you even though you have got everything, maybe you do not have the above things that men want. Try and practice them it will work.
      * WAKE UP AND ASK HIM (boyfriend): What will be my future with you?
    Do not take excuses? Tell him your future plans. Enough is enough ask him what he is waiting for? If possible give him your parents' address and he must tell them what he wants from you. If he came to play around with you he will never come back. You must rather stay without a man rather than wasting your time with someone who will hurt you and leave you, for how long will you live like that? Once you are able to do that you will see the future you were dreaming of.
    A RIGHT MAN WHO LOVES YOU WILL COME AND DO THAT.
    You ladies with long term relationships ask your boyfriends today, if he is mumbling, leave him because you will be depressed one day if you find out that he is getting married to someone whom he met within 4 months. Imagine (4years = 4months) I am just picturing how your feeling will be?
    Ladies stay away from those relationships, they are 3%useful and 97% wasting your time. There could be someone out there who was going to marry you during this 4yrs maybe it was going to take him a year to marry you but you refused you wanted to stay in a relationship with no due date.
    We are all working according to time (Projects, Deliveries, Purchasing, Contracts, etc.) Why Not Love Affairs? I have sisters I always tell them because I want the best for them. Some of you might not agree but I am sure this can help some of you.
    PLEASE REMEMBER THIS:
    "IF A MAN IS STABLE IN LIFE, IN A RELATIONSHIP, BUT NOT MARRIED, THEN IT IS BECAUSE HE IS NOT SURE ABOUT THE WOMAN THAT HE IS WITH."
    He is not willing to commit to her and constantly has his eye open for something better or is waiting for her to become something better. Point blank. When he finds a woman that he is satisfied with, he will make her his wife. And ladies, sorry to tell some of you, but it doesn't take 4 or 5 years for that man to figure it out. It doesn't take 2 or 3 years either. The only reason that a man will get married after that long of a time is because he's tired of looking for something better. And trust me, that's definitely what he was doing all of those years. So if you should happen to find yourself in one of those "long term" relationships then maybe you should step back, take a look at yourself and wonder what it is that you're missing by doing favours for this man who is not willing to fully commit.
    Don't make excuses to yourself and your girlfriends saying things like "Oh he's waiting 'til he gets a better job" or "he's waiting to finish school" or "he's waiting until he moves from his apartment to a house".
    DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED!!
    Which one of those things can't be done with a wife or fiancé' by your side? So ladies, when you read this think about your situation and that man that you are living with, or the one that you spend many nights over his house or him over yours. Think about your "boyfriend". And definitely think twice before you brag on a relationship that's a couple of years long and you still have no commitment.
    Like I've said before, I'm a man and I know the situation. I've been there and I know that we can come up with some extremely reasonable excuses, but.... DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED!
    Can I get an Amen??!
    Pass it on to Men also, who are still waiting for their mothers approval to marry. And those who are still having excuses of their still saving. Or bare me a Baby then ill marry you.
    Or hey maybe let me take time, maybe I will meet HalleBerry.
    Guys you don't know what you have until is gone.
    
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12. The Best Things in Life
    
    Created by: mufunwa mudau | Date: 11:27:00 AM | 25 Mar 2010 | Comments(2)
    
    

    The Best Things in Life

    Falling in love.
    Laughing so hard your face hurts.
    A hot shower.
    No lines at the Super Wal-Mart.
    A special glance.
    Getting mail.
    Taking a drive on a pretty road.
    Hearing your favorite song on the radio.
    Lying in bed listening to the rain outside.
    Hot towels out of the dryer.
    Finding the sweater you want is on sale for half price.
    Chocolate milkshake.
    A long distance phone call.
    A bubble bath.
    Giggling.
    A good conversation.
    The beach.
    Finding a $20 bill in your coat from last winter.
    Laughing at yourself.
    Midnight phone calls that last for hours.
    Running through sprinklers.
    Laughing for absolutely no reason at all.
    Having someone tell you that you're beautiful.
    Laughing at an inside joke.
    Friends.
    Falling in love for the first time.
    Accidentally overhearing someone say something nice about you.
    Waking up and realizing you still have a few hours left to sleep.
    Your first kiss.
    Making new friends or spending time with old ones.
    Playing with a new puppy.
    Late night talks with your roommate that keep you from sleeping.
    Having someone play with your hair.
    Sweet dreams.
    Hot chocolate.
    Road trips with friends.
    Swinging on swings.
    Watching a good movie cuddled up on a couch with someone you love.
    Wrapping presents under the Christmas tree while eating cookies and drinking eggnog.
    Song lyrics printed inside your new CD so you can sing along without feeling stupid.
    Going to a really good concert.
    Getting butterflies in your stomach every time you see that one person.
    Making eye contact with a cute stranger.
    Winning a really competitive game.
    Making chocolate chip cookies!
    Having your friends send you homemade cookies!
    Spending time with close friends!

    Seeing smiles and hearing laughter from your friends.
    Holding hands with someone you care about.�

    Running into an old friend and realizing that some things (good or bad) never change.
    Discovering that love is unconditional and stronger than time.
    Riding the best roller coasters over and over.
    Hugging the person you love.

    Watching the expression someone's face as they open a much-desired present from you.
    Watching the sunrise.
    Getting out of bed every morning and thanking God for another beautiful day.
    Having friends you know you can cry on or talk to about your deepest problems

     

    
    
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13. legal advice on labour matters (employer employee relationship)
    
    Created by: Volde mort volde mort | Date: 09:56:00 AM | 25 Mar 2010 | Comments(2)
    
    

    the labour relations act 66 of 1995 gives a wide range of protection to employees. first of all an employee has (30) days to take the matter to the commission for conciliatoin mediation & arbitratoin, after dismissal by the employer. Once an employee takes his matter to the CCMA after 30 such an employee must apply condonation for late referral of his?her matter.Condonation is a procedure wherein the an employee shows the reasons of the late referraal of his matter to the CCMA for hearing.

    
    
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14. BLACKS ARE STILL SLAVES
    
    Created by: Mulalo "Staind" Ramunugu | Date: 18:54:00 PM | 24 Mar 2010 | Comments(0)
    
    

    We can continue to reap profits from the Blacks/Coloureds without the effort of physical slavery Look at the current methods of containment that they use on themselves: IGNORANCE, GREED, and SELFISHNESS
     
    Their IGNORANCE is the primary weapon of containment. A great man once said, "The best way to hide something from Blacks/Coloured people is to put it in a book." We now live in the Information Age. They have gained the opportunity to read any book on any subject through the efforts of their fight for freedom, yet they refuse to read. There are numerous books readily available at Borders, Barnes & Noble, and Amazon.com, not to mention their own Black Bookstores that provide solid blueprints to reach economic equality (which should have been their fight all along), but few read consistently, if at all.
     
    GREED is another powerful weapon of containment. Blacks/Coloured, since the abolition of slavery, have had large amounts of money at their disposal. Last year they spent 10 billion dollars during Christmas, out of their 450 billion dollars in total yearly income (2.22%).
     
    Any of us can use them as our target market, for any business venture we care to dream up, no matter how outlandish, they will buy into it. Being primarily a consumer people, they function totally by greed. They continually want more, with little thought for saving or investing.
     
    They would rather buy some new sneaker than invest in starting a business. Some even neglect their children to have the latest Tommy or FUBU, And they still think that having a Mercedes, and a big house gives them "Status" or that they have achieved their Dream.
     
    They are fools! The vast majority of their people are still in poverty because their greed holds them back from collectively making better communities.
     
    With the help of BET, and the rest of their black media that often broadcasts destructive images into their own homes, we will continue to see huge profits like those of Tommy and Nike. (Tommy Hilfiger has even jeered them, saying he doesn't want their money, and look at how the fools spend more with him than ever before!). They'll continue to show off to each other while we build solid communities with the profits from our businesses that we market to them.
     
    SELFISHNESS, ingrained in their minds through slavery, is one of the major ways we can continue to contain them. One of their own, Dubois said that there was an innate division in their culture. A "Talented Tenth" he called it. He was correct in his deduction that there are segments of their culture that has achieved some "form" of success. However, that segment missed the fullness of his work. They didn't read that the "Talented Tenth" was then responsible to aid The Non-Talented Ninety Percent in achieving a better life. Instead, that segment has created another class, a Buppie class that looks down on their people or aids them in a condescending manner. They will never achieve what we have. Their selfishness does not allow them to be able to work together on any project or endeavor of substance. When they do get together, their selfishness lets their egos get in the way of their goal Their so-called help organizations seem to only want to promote their name without making any real change in their community.�
     
    They are content to sit in conferences and conventions in our hotels, and talk about what they will do, while they award plaques to the best speakers, not to the best doers. Is there no end to their selfishness? They steadfastly refuse to see that TOGETHER EACH ACHIEVES MORE (TEAM). They do not understand that they are no better than each other because of what they own, as a matter of fact, most of those Buppies are but one or two pay checks away from poverty. All of which is under the control of our pens in our offices and our rooms.
     
    Yes, we will continue to contain them as long as they refuse to read, continue to buy anything they want, and keep thinking they are "helping" their communities by paying dues to organizations which do little other than hold lavish conventions in our hotels. By the way, don't worry about any of them reading this letter, remember, 'THEY DON'T READ!!!! 
     
    
    
    

    
    
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15. French Kissing tips
    
    Created by: Jimmy M'jimaro | Date: 09:28:00 AM | 24 Mar 2010 | Comments(3)
    
    

    This is a guide to basic kissing, i.e. you learn the basics and get the basics right, then experiment and try different styles and more advanced techniques. 
    
    The basics 
    
    1. Brush your teeth, get a good bath, nicely groomed and clean and fresh, before meeting the other person. There's nothing worse than kissing the rear end of a garbage truck 
    
    2. Get into a comfortable position - you can't kiss if your back feels like it's gonna break. Suggestion - Sit side by side on a comfy sofa. 
    
    3. Hold your lover , firmly but gently - don't cause pain. Suggestion would be to hold the shoulders, the neck or gently on the side of the face, one side or both sides. 
    
    4. Move your faces closer. Don't bump noses. Suggestion would be the guy angle his face slightly so you don't bump noses. 
    
    5. Kiss gently, normal closed lips kissing, and close your eyes. Closing your eyes increases the sensations you feel, and also sets the mood. 
    
    6. Continue kissing gently. Get comfortable with simple closed lips, lip-to-lip kissing before going anywhere else. 
    
    7. If fine till here, tentatively, slowly and lightly draw your tongue across the other person's lips. 
    
    8. Chances are from here, if the other person lightly parts her tongue, slowly explore the other person's tongue in a light licking motion. 
    
    9. The tongue has a very sensitive surface, which is why tongue to tongue is the essence of french kissing. 
    
    10. After you've tried lightly licking the other person's tongue, you can try sucking on it, wrestling with it ( see if you can hold it to the floor of her mouth ) and other things like that. 
    
    11. Explore the other areas of the mouth. Especially the roof of the mouth. Lightly lick, or tickle the area with your tongue. 
    
    12. Don't bite. whatever you do, don't bite. 
    
    13. Don't swing your tongue round and round like a windmill. Explore lightly, don't drill your way through. 
    
    14. Breathe through your nose. Breathe through your nose. I say again, breathe through your nose. 
    
    15. Follow so far? You can lightly use your hands too, lightly rubbing the other person. Suggestions, along the waist, along the back, the arms, especially the inside of the arm, the neck, maybe running your fingers through her hair. Again, don't cause pain. 
    
    16. Continue kissing. 

    
    
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16. goodby my life
    
    Created by: Charlie West | Date: 07:22:00 AM | 17 Mar 2010 | Comments(1)
    
    

    1. its time to say goodby oh dreadful year...pass as i welcome tommorrow's brand new blessings  and reject all yesterday's curses...allow me to say goodby to you dear friend..this epic wouldn"t have been the same without you...its time to let go now...let go of what was and grant change to come in...2geda we've been through a lot,but i got new chapters to write..i am grateful for all the loughter,the tears,fears,pain and joy we've shared...thank you for standing by me even though i feel like you made me go 2 steps down to teenagehood and expirience peer pressure at its best...its true what they say you can never escape one or two stages in life,you cant be a young udult at 14 and get away with it.i know that now since you sent me back to that wich i thought i'll never allow myself the knowlage..i  know now thanx to you.

    2. you watched me giving without taking .you were there when it was time to shine!you saw my tears when they betrayed,attacked and rejected me..you were there when i sold myself to the devil,you watched me turn in hell's flea markert with no buyers...yet you never said anything...you've seen me look back and you saw them looking at me, pipping through the window..perverting me...you were with me when i stood there in the flea markert while they all laughed at me...like Bartman girl...only this time even my own kind loughed,they all loughed even those who were suppose to  protect me loughed!i know you remember  because you were there. they even called me promiscous for somone else's crimes

    3. i recall the spiritual connections we've made...you and i,,, the intimacy beyond measure...that made me lose all my treasures. i refuse to believe that i took this walk with you with a blind eye. i know you were nothing but an eye opener to me...goodby my significant other...i watched you crossing rivers,catching eagles and flying to the freezing ends of the world with me..to soils my ancesters cant reach..in grounds where only Jesus remains a true friend. a friend indeed who is not in need,,,for friendships in need goes indeed one way..you were an eye opener..i am glad you've showed me all that i did not even imagin...a world where being real and true to yourself makes you a treat to society, a world where kindness is but a moment...i will miss you and i am now careful thank you for all the lessons you''ve tought me....i'll never forget you....my last day of being a 24 old...i'll never be the same again.

    
    
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17. Foreign vs. SA Languages during the 2010 FIFA WC
    
    Created by: Khotsi a "Tendie n Thanyie" 8tsha | Date: 13:38:00 PM | 16 Mar 2010 | Comments(0)
    
    

    Background

    With the world cup looming, there has been a lot of buzz around the country, football fans, commercial traders, and even your ordinary street vendors. This excitement over the world cup, to take place, for the very first time on African soil has been met with a lot of enthusiasm, some cities have even gone as far as teaching street vendors foreign languages, and then there are also organisations that have developed local terminologies for the world cup. It would seem, everyone is doing the best they can to ensure that soccer fans from all over the world will have an unforgettable time in South Africa.

    Now things are clear and vivid that the outcome of the event on tourism and on the economy will not be nearly as spectacular as we were initially led to believe. For instance, there have been several signals lately that the number of foreign visitors could fall well short of earlier projections of 450 000 plus. Then there are ticket sales. Figures change daily but South African soccer fans are clearly in the majority, followed by the US, UK and Germany

     

    Our Question is:

    With South African soccer fans leading the ticket sales do you think it is fair to spend money promoting foreign languages by teaching street vendors these languages at the detriment of our own indigenous languages?  Wouldn’t it be better to teach the foreigners some of our local languages to remind them that they were in South Africa? 

    
    
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18. FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER
    
    Created by: Joyce Rudzani Theka | Date: 00:12:00 AM | 16 Mar 2010 | Comments(0)
    
    

    
    

    BY WONGA MATOMELA

    
    

     

    When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr. /Miss. Right!
    
    If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say:
    "We're in love". I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love.
    
    Though this may sound "not politically correct", there's a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: "You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone". You need a lot more!!!
    
    Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.
    
    QUESTION 1: Do we share a common life purpose?
    
    Why is this so important? Let me put it this way:
    If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.
    
    Two things can happen in a marriage:
    
    (1) You can grow together, or
    
    (2) You can grow apart.
    
    50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line; and marry someone who wants the same thing.
    
    QUESTION 2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?
    
    This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get "punished"; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.
    
    QUESTION 3: Is he/she a mensch?
    
    A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ". So ask your significant other what do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.
    
    There are essentially two types of people in the world:
    
    (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth, and
    
    (2) People who are dedicated to seeking comfort.
    
    Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.
    
    QUESTION 4: How does he/she treat other people?
    
    The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.
    
    Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed? To measure this, think about the following:
    
    How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.
    How do they treat their parents and siblings?
    Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly will eventually treat you poorly as well.
    
    QUESTION 5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?
    
    Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse". If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.
    
    In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; so be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.
    
    Another perspective...
    There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance...
    
    It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you.
    
    Pay attention... Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or appreciate you?
    
    The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.
    
    An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye". Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, pity, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.
    
    Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
    
    You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
    
    If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life"; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.
    
    WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG ARE:
    TRUST
    COMMUNICATION
    INTIMACY
    A SENSE OF HUMOR
    SHARING TASKS
    SOME GETAWAY TIME WITHOUT BUSINESS OR CHILDREN
    DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes)
    SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
    GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
    GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT
    
    If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace it.

     

    
    
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19. Sex-starved marriage - bringing passion and romance back
    
    Created by: Jimmy M'jimaro | Date: 09:39:00 AM | 09 Mar 2010 | Comments(0)
    
    

    BORED: About 15percent of marriages in South Africa are of the brother-sister kind.   NOT getting it anymore? You’re not alone: It is estimated that one in five people are in a “sexless” marriage. Sex and relationship expert Alan Grand says sexless relationships are becoming increasingly prominent among young couples, with 28percent of men in their 30s having sex less than once a month. In fact , according to Grand, it is believed that more than 15percent of marriages in South Africa are of the brother-sister kind. Grand says a sexless marriage isn’t a problem in itself but a symptom of something much deeper. “Trying to solve the symptom instead of the problem can actually make things worse between you. If you really want to get the sex back into your marriage you must look deeper to find the real cause,” Grand says. He warns that if there is a problem in the bedroom, then chances are high that this could lead to dissatisfaction all around, which in turn leads to arguments, resentment and a low-self esteem. “A regular sex life is good for your health. Sex and intimacy are a vital part of a working relationship, so when you are living in a sexless marriage it can not only be frustrating but also shameful and depressing,” says Grand. “Sex can satisfy all sorts of emotional and physical intimacy needs and help partners stay close. The experience of a low sexual drive can leave many couples to believe that they are not attracted to each other. When indeed they still are, just lost it somehow along the way.” Gatherintimacy.com says a sexless union may come about for many reasons, including a combination of any of the following. It could be that: ·  A couple never had a lot of sex to begin with; ·  A specific event led to no sex. For example, the birth of a child or an affair; ·  Lovers are just plain bored with each other or their lovemaking; ·  Lovers are juggling too much between family, career and other life demands; ·  One or both are plagued with low sex drive due to physiological, mental or relational factors. ·  Lovers are taking each other for granted, are apathetic and not making sexual intimacy a priority, especially when consumed with their own career or schooling; ·  Sex other than for procreation is seen as wrong and hence guilt-provoking; ·  A partner is uncomfortable with sex or his/her body and/or sexual skills; ·  The partner interested in sex fears hurt or rejection after having been turned down – and many times at that; ·  One partner views sex as a bargaining tool and reserves it for just that; ·  Partners are unhappy with each other and staying together because they are expected to or because they have kids.   Find out how to fix your sexless marriage and put an end to lonely nights.   ·�Keep it sweet If you want to get your sweetie in the mood, treat him/her sweetly. Don’t dig on him/her for little things. Remind him/her daily of all the reasons you love them.   ·�Make sex dates If you want to keep romance alive, you make romantic dates with him/her. If you want to keep sex alive, you need to make sex dates with your partner. Talk it over and put it in your calendar. It’s no secret that passion dissipates over time. If you haven’t had sex in a while, waiting for it to “just happen” isn’t going to happen. Set aside a Friday evening or Sunday afternoon. Turn off your cellphones and turn on each other. Whether you plan to spend half the day in bed or just jump onto each other for a quickie doesn’t matter. What matters is that you both show up and get it on.   ·�Bring fantasy into the bedroom Everyone has a fantasy. What is yours? Do you secretly have a crush on a movie star? Did you always wish you had sex in an airplane bathroom? Does the thought of getting it on with the chauffeur make your panties damp? Fantasising does not mean you’re not into your partner. If you and your lover have never role-played before, talk about what your secret desires are. If your partner is leery, let her take the lead.   ·�Read and learn Sex is like anything. You can always learn more and get better at it. Read sex books and magazines for stimulation and inspiration. Better yet, read it aloud to each other.   ·  Be willing More than anything, keeping sex alive in a relationship is dependent on both partners making a commitment to do so. Be willing to take a risk and tell your partner what your needs are. Be open to hearing his desires.

    
    01 March 2010
    Zenoyise Madikwa
    
    
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20. If a man wants you
    
    Created by: Dip MpHo Wa Sherrif ''HB'' M | Date: 11:46:00 AM | 05 Mar 2010 | Comments(3)
    
    
    If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
    If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
    Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
    Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
    Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
    Slower is better.
    Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
    If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
    Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
    Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself, a year later for staying when things are not better.
    The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
    Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
    He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
    Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
    Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
    If something bothers you, speak up.
    Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
    You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
    Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
    He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
    Never let a man define who you are.
    Never borrow someone else's man.
    Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
    A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
    All men are NOT dogs.
    You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
    You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
    You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
    Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
    Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and you’re always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
    Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
    Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
    They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.
    
    
    
    
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21. White women's opinion of Black women
    
    Created by: Mulalo "Staind" Ramunugu | Date: 22:21:00 PM | 26 Feb 2010 | Comments(6)
    
    THIS IS WELL WORTH READING
    White women's opinion of Black women & a Black brother's response.
    Please take a moment and read this. Pretty Deep! Thumbs up to this Black man.
    Enjoy.
    
    It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by A WHITE woman who requested a response from Black man. I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more)!!! She wrote:
    
    Dear Jamie
    
    I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.
    I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.
    
    Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly Approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world.
    If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them.
    
    Bryant Gumbel left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Wesley Snipes....
    I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us, White women, because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, Let me know.
    
    
    Thanks-Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in S A!!!!
    
    RESPONSE
    
    Dear Jamie:
    
    I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old Black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful Black men.
    
    I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to
    set the record straight of why Black men date white women Back in
    the day, one of the biggest reasons why Black men dated white women was
    because they were considered easy. The Black girls in my neighborhood were raised in strict homes. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of Black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Black
    women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.
    
    Because of this fear, many Black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control.
    I have talked to numerous Black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight.
    I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful Black men date white women.
    Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Kenny Neluembeni,Michael Jordan,
    Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds,
    Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong Black women
    And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot
    light, who openly or secretly desire Black women over white women.
    Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don't Want a "Disgusted White girl" to be misinformed, Stop thinking that Because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when
    Indian Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and
    armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating
    raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!
    It was the Black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food.
    It was the Black woman that taught you how to raise your children.
    It was Black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.
    It is the Black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.
    Black women were born with two strikes against them: being Black and being a woman. And, through all this, still they Rise! It is because of the Black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my Black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them.
    
    It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about a Black woman. Their strong spirit, loving and
    nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles,
    their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their
    determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great
    pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with Black women..
    
    I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin?
    Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous?
    I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have What the Black woman has....
    
    BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.
    
    No offense taken, none given.
    Signed, Black Royalty
    
    
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22. NELSON MANDELA'S ADDRESS TO RALLY IN CAPE TOWN ON HIS RELEASE FROM PRISON
    
    Created by: Dip MpHo Wa Sherrif ''HB'' M | Date: 15:32:00 PM | 11 Feb 2010 | Comments(2)
    
    

    NELSON MANDELA'S ADDRESS TO RALLY IN CAPE TOWN ON HIS RELEASE FROM PRISON

    11 February 1990

    Friends, comrades and fellow South Africans.

    I greet you all in the name of peace, democracy and freedom for all.

    I stand here before you not as a prophet but as a humble servant of you, the people. Your tireless and heroic sacrifices have made it possible for me to be here today. I therefore place the remaining years of my life in your hands.

    On this day of my release, I extend my sincere and warmest gratitude to the millions of my compatriots and those in every corner of the globe who have campaigned tirelessly for my release.

    I send special greetings to the people of Cape Town, this city which has been my home for three decades. Your mass marches and other forms of struggle have served as a constant source of strength to all political prisoners.

    I salute the African National Congress. It has fulfilled our every expectation in its role as leader of the great march to freedom.

    I salute our President, Comrade Oliver Tambo, for leading the ANC even under the most difficult circumstances.

    I salute the rank and file members of the ANC. You have sacrificed life and limb in the pursuit of the noble cause of our struggle.

    I salute combatants of Umkhonto we Sizwe, like Solomon Mahlangu and Ashley Kriel who have paid the ultimate price for the freedom of all South Africans.

    I salute the South African Communist Party for its sterling contribution to the struggle for democracy. You have survived 40 years of unrelenting persecution. The memory of great communists like Moses Kotane, Yusuf Dadoo, Bram Fischer and Moses Mabhida will be cherished for generations to come.

    I salute General Secretary Joe Slovo, one of our finest patriots. We are heartened by the fact that the alliance between ourselves and the Party remains as strong as it always was.

    I salute the United Democratic Front, the National Education Crisis Committee, the South African Youth Congress, the Transvaal and Natal Indian Congresses and COSATU and the many other formations of the Mass Democratic Movement.

    I also salute the Black Sash and the National Union of South African Students. We note with pride that you have acted as the conscience of white South Africa. Even during the darkest days in the history of our struggle you held the flag of liberty high. The large-scale mass mobilisation of the past few years is one of the key factors which led to the opening of the final chapter of our struggle.

    I extend my greetings to the working class of our country. Your organised strength is the pride of our movement. You remain the most dependable force in the struggle to end exploitation and oppression.

    I pay tribute to the many religious communities who carried the campaign for justice forward when the organisations for our people were silenced.

    I greet the traditional leaders of our country - many of you continue to walk in the footsteps of great heroes like Hintsa and Sekhukune.

    I pay tribute to the endless heroism of youth, you, the young lions. You, the young lions, have energised our entire struggle.

    I pay tribute to the mothers and wives and sisters of our nation. You are the rock-hard foundation of our struggle. Apartheid has inflicted more pain on you than on anyone else.

    On this occasion, we thank the world community for their great contribution to the anti-apartheid struggle. Without your support our struggle would not have reached this advanced stage. The sacrifice of the frontline states will be remembered by South Africans forever.

    My salutations would be incomplete without expressing my deep appreciation for the strength given to me during my long and lonely years in prison by my beloved wife and family. I am convinced that your pain and suffering was far greater than my own.

    Before I go any further I wish to make the point that I intend making only a few preliminary comments at this stage. I will make a more complete statement only after I have had the opportunity to consult with my comrades.

    Today the majority of South Africans, black and white, recognise that apartheid has no future. It has to be ended by our own decisive mass action in order to build peace and security. The mass campaign of defiance and other actions of our organisation and people can only culminate in the establishment of democracy. The destruction caused by apartheid on our sub-continent is in- calculable. The fabric of family life of millions of my people has been shattered. Millions are homeless and unemployed. Our economy lies in ruins and our people are embroiled in political strife. Our resort to the armed struggle in 1960 with the formation of the military wing of the ANC, Umkhonto we Sizwe, was a purely defensive action against the violence of apartheid. The factors which necessitated the armed struggle still exist today. We have no option but to continue. We express the hope that a climate conducive to a negotiated settlement will be created soon so that there may no longer be the need for the armed struggle.

    I am a loyal and disciplined member of the African National Congress. I am therefore in full agreement with all of its objectives, strategies and tactics.

    The need to unite the people of our country is as important a task now as it always has been. No individual leader is able to take on this enormous task on his own. It is our task as leaders to place our views before our organisation and to allow the democratic structures to decide. On the question of democratic practice, I feel duty bound to make the point that a leader of the movement is a person who has been democratically elected at a national conference. This is a principle which must be upheld without any exceptions.

    Today, I wish to report to you that my talks with the government have been aimed at normalising the political situation in the country. We have not as yet begun discussing the basic demands of the struggle. I wish to stress that I myself have at no time entered into negotiations about the future of our country except to insist on a meeting between the ANC and the government.

    Mr. De Klerk has gone further than any other Nationalist president in taking real steps to normalise the situation. However, there are further steps as outlined in the Harare Declaration that have to be met before negotiations on the basic demands of our people can begin. I reiterate our call for, inter alia, the immediate ending of the State of Emergency and the freeing of all, and not only some, political prisoners. Only such a normalised situation, which allows for free political activity, can allow us to consult our people in order to obtain a mandate.

    The people need to be consulted on who will negotiate and on the content of such negotiations. Negotiations cannot take place above the heads or behind the backs of our people. It is our belief that the future of our country can only be determined by a body which is democratically elected on a non-racial basis. Negotiations on the dismantling of apartheid will have to address the over- whelming demand of our people for a democratic, non-racial and unitary South Africa. There must be an end to white monopoly on political power and a fundamental restructuring of our political and economic systems to ensure that the inequalities of apartheid are addressed and our society thoroughly democratised.

    It must be added that Mr. De Klerk himself is a man of integrity who is acutely aware of the dangers of a public figure not honouring his undertakings. But as an organisation we base our policy and strategy on the harsh reality we are faced with. And this reality is that we are still suffering under the policy of the Nationalist government.

    Our struggle has reached a decisive moment. We call on our people to seize this moment so that the process towards democracy is rapid and uninterrupted. We have waited too long for our freedom. We can no longer wait. Now is the time to intensify the struggle on all fronts. To relax our efforts now would be a mistake which generations to come will not be able to forgive. The sight of freedom looming on the horizon should encourage us to redouble our efforts.

    It is only through disciplined mass action that our victory can be assured. We call on our white compatriots to join us in the shaping of a new South Africa. The freedom movement is a political home for you too. We call on the international community to continue the campaign to isolate the apartheid regime. To lift sanctions now would be to run the risk of aborting the process towards the complete eradication of apartheid.

    Our march to freedom is irreversible. We must not allow fear to stand in our way. Universal suffrage on a common voters' role in a united democratic and non-racial South Africa is the only way to peace and racial harmony.

    In conclusion I wish to quote my own words during my trial in 1964. They are true today as they were then:

    'I have fought against white domination and I have fought against black domination. I have cherished the ideal of a democratic and free society in which all persons live together in harmony and with equal opportunities. It is an ideal which I hope to live for and to achieve. But if needs be, it is an ideal for which I am prepared to die.'

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23. rich dad poor da by robert t kyosaki
    
    Created by: Lutendo"JAPIE" Matshidza | Date: 17:55:00 PM | 01 Feb 2010 | Comments(4)
    
    

    *A Book Review*

    Rich Dad, Poor Dad

    By Robert T. Kiyosaki with Sharon L. Lechter, CPA

    by Michael C. Gray

    July 25, 2000

    
    

    What is the difference in the world view and attitude of people who become rich compared to other people? What things do they do differently to have such different results in their lives?

    Robert T. Kiyosaki had a unique opportunity to find out. Robert's father was an educator and public administrator. When Robert was a young boy, he and his friend, Mike decided they wanted to learn how to become rich. They started by trying to make (counterfeit) money.

    Robert's father explained to the boys this was illegal. He also admitted he did not know how to become rich, but suggested the boys ask Mike's father how to go about it. So Mike's father, an independent businessperson, became a mentor to Robert, his "Rich Dad."

    This book is the fascinating story of how the Rich Dad taught Robert the lessons he needed to learn to make himself financially independent. Robert has learned that our educational system is pretty good at producing employees, but not very good at producing people who are good at managing their finances wisely. He now teaches people how to apply the principles of becoming rich. In addition to publishing the information in this book, he has developed a game, CASHFLOW(tm) 101 to help people develop their financial intelligence.

    Some of the ideas Robert presents reinforce those in other books we have reviewed. Like The Millionaire Next Door, Robert points out the difference between having a big salary and building wealth. Like The Richest Man In Babylon, Robert emphasizes the importance of paying yourself first. In his opinion, it's more important to systematically invest a portion of your income than to pay your bills or to pay your taxes. (A controversial concept.)

    Robert also has a definition of an asset versus a liability that is different from conventional accounting. Investors generally focus on accumulating assets and avoid liabilities. Simply stated, assets generate income or cash. Liabilities consume cash. Rich people accumulate assets. People who aren't rich accumulate liabilities. Some things that look like assets are actually liabilities - for example: a residence, a car, a boat. When we accumulate these things, we are not really accumulating wealth, we are consuming it. If we haven't accumulated sufficient assets and we acquire these "toy" liabilities, we are putting the cart before the horse. Instead, we should emphasize regularly acquiring stocks, bonds, tax lien certificates, rental real estate, and other investments. We also need to learn to build value and get some tax shelter by building our own business.

    Robert acknowledges that it is possible to use the principle of compound interest and regular saving to achieve financial independence. The problem with this approach is it's a long, patient one. Most people get started too late for it to work.

    The rest of us must develop our financial intelligence, make risk our friend, and accelerate our financial growth. Although diversification is appropriate for preserving accumulated wealth, the investor usually must take the additional risk of focused investments in order to initially accumulate wealth. Bigger returns require accepting more risk.

    Rich Dad, Poor Dad is the kind of book that opens your mind to new possibilities. Whether to contribute to your child's financial education or your own, you will want to have a copy in your home.

    
    
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24. Living with a disability is not a failure.
    
    Created by: Lutendo Rhinah Singo | Date: 16:08:00 PM | 26 Jan 2010 | Comments(3)
    
    

    There is a saying that goes “each of us has unique personality”. Some of us are living with disability, but living with a disability is not a failure. We all have our own shares and personalities; we should embrace them and stop treating other people differently just because they are disabled.

     

    Some people tend to discriminate towards persons living with disability; they despise them, can’t even befriend them or they misjudge them. The worst part is when they are being treated this way by members of their families. But how hard can it be to accept people with disabilities?

     

    There are different kinds of disabilities; each of them has its ups and downs. We cannot say one disability is better than the other; they are all the same, painful and challenging. Each day people become disable, anything can happen without us expecting it. But if we scorn and misjudge persons living with disability, how are we going to feel when people do the same to us? In Tshivenda they say Ni songo sea vhuhole nitshe nwana vhuada vhuhulwaneni. We really need to have a heart and treat people living with disability the same way we would like to be treated when we become disabled.

     

    I’m writing this article because of my experience of living with a disability and seeing how other disabled peoples are being treated. I have been living with a hearing impairment disability for over 25 years. I am deaf and I am proud of it because it is what God gave me. It took me years to accept my disability and I am proud of what I have achieved in life so far. I have endured much heartache because people mistreated, misjudged and made me believe that I am a failure. I felt withdrawn towards every decision I should make, I let people and my disability control my life just like that. People took advantage of me knowing that I can’t be able to help myself with most of my needs. I had legs to walk, eyes to see but had no ears to hear even though I had ears to define me as a complete human being.

     

    My message to all people living with disabilities: you are not a failure. Treat your disability as a gift from God. In my opinion, my disability means different solutions to my problems. I believe that if I was not disabled, I shouldn’t be who I am or where I am today. I’m pleased that God gave me this gift as a way of enabling me prosper my life. May you do the same, don’t let your disability control your life, love yourself and enjoy this life that God has given you. Goodluck!

     

    Thank you for reading my story.
    
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25. Romance at work
    
    Created by: sedzani Nkhumeleni | Date: 14:20:00 PM | 26 Jan 2010 | Comments(6)
    
    

    Romance at work? Beware
    A relationship with a colleague, no matter how casual, is a serious undertaking and should be approached with caution. Consider the practicalities and consequences — if things turn sour, you might have to move on. Think very carefully before embarking upon an office romance. Question Time — Be guided by common sense and ask yourself some serious questions: * Are there any conflicts of interest? * How much do you have to work together? * Are you ever in competition with each other? * Are either of you privy to confidential information that might create a divide? * Does your employer have a policy on relationships between staff? * Are you happy to be the subject of gossip and speculation? * Are you prepared to leave your job if it doesn’t work out? Keeping it Quiet — Don’t jump the gun. Be patient and find your feet before going public: * Decide, together, who you’re going to tell. Don’t be tempted to tell anyone you shouldn’t. * If it’s early days, be as discreet as possible and keep it between yourselves. * Be cautious of using work email to communicate anything personal; opt for personal web-based mail instead. * Restrain yourself on social networking sites such as Facebook, Khoro and Plaxo in case you’re ‘friends’ with colleagues. Equally, temper your Twitter use. * Turn up separately in the morning and don’t leave together at night. * Spilling the Beans — No matter how professional you are, others might be judgmental about your relationship: * When you become an established couple, consider being open and letting everyone know. This allows you to control the spread of the news rather than rely on the office grapevine. * The exception to this rule is if one of you is married. In that case, don’t tell anyone. Co-workers will most likely take the moral high ground and rightly remind you that you’re playing with fire. * Remember that your relationship will probably make co-workers feel uncomfortable — you’ve shifted the work-life boundaries with which they are familiar. * Brace yourself for mixed reactions and accept the fact that people will talk, judge and gossip. * Colleagues may assume that you have embarked upon the affair with ulterior motives — this is especially true for liaisons between boss and subordinate. Considerate Conduct - Professional gloss must be maintained and your private and work lives kept separate: * Never flaunt your romance in front of colleagues — displays of intimacy will undermine your professionalism. - Resist the temptation to gossip or gloat about your relationship. * Remember that your other half is everyone else’s colleague, so don’t embarrass them by discussing inappropriate or personal topics. * Don’t bring any relationship problems to work. Never, ever, argue or hold grudges in the office. * Avoid the use of pet names or terms of endearment at work. “* With careful handling and favourable circumstances, romance can blossom. Hopefully, too, colleagues will respect the fact that you’ve shown restraint and that your relationship has not affected your job. Next Steps — If you find that mixing business with pleasure is affecting your work or your relationship adversely, assess your priorities and act decisively: * Often couples find it too difficult to work together. If the relationship is going strong but work isn’t, then one of you may choose to move companies for love to survive. * If a break-up is on the cards, however, brace yourself. It will be traumatic and public, no matter how careful you are. * Remain gracious and professional at all times. People will talk and ‘I told you so’ may be a well-used phrase. * It is the sad fact that in most cases, ex’s can’t work together and one of you will be forced to leave your job. Office romance is a risky business. The workplace can be a challenging environment at the best of times, so don’t embark upon any romantic liaison without fully contemplating the consequences and carefully managing some serious office politics.

    
    
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26. Love without reservations; live without regrets.
    
    Created by: Ludwick Lloyd | Date: 08:02:00 AM | 13 Jan 2010 | Comments(1)
    
    
    In life; don't ever play games.
    
    If you love someone, TELL them… if you don't… TELL them.
    
    The human heart is a very complex thing in that it makes us do the strangest things when it reaches a point of desperation especially when we are hurting. I'm sure many of us have reached that point where we find ourselves attacking the competition "In the name of Love" even attacking the object of your affection, some of us have even found ourselves hiding behind bushes or tagging the car playing spy.
    
    At the end of it all, relationships, whether friendships or romance need two elements to survive- COMMUNICATION and COMPROMISE and it needs another two elements to fall apart - PRIDE and STUPIDITY.
    
    Too proud to say I'm sorry, too proud to say I'm hurting, too proud to say I'm feeling a little insecure. And so stupid, stupid enough to let them go because you think they will be back, stupid enough not to tell them that you love them because you think they will stick around longer if you play hard to get, stupid enough to not answer their calls when you have a fight because you want to make them hurt and you want to teach them a lesson they'll never forget...
    
    Watch out you are not the one who learns a lesson... If its worth a great person walking out of your life, possibly for good..then by all means knock yourself out.
    
    But don't cry when that person never calls you ever again, or finds solace in another's arms because the pain you were causing them was too much to bear (stupid but serious)
    
    Don't cry when a beautiful relationship is broken and can't be fixed because YOU chose to play games instead of laying your cards on the table and working it out.
    
    Say exactly what you feel and ask exactly what you want to know.
    
    No matter how STUPID you sound... At least you will know exactly where you stand.
    
    And even if after you've poured your heart out and it still doesn't work out.You will be at peace because you know you did your best on your part. Your conscience will be clear and you will move on knowing that you didn't go down without a fight.
    
    Loving someone is not a game.
    
    People are not pyramids... you can't go off on your own selfish trip and expect to find them in the exact same spot you left them weeks ago. If you don't take care of your partners' needs when they need you to, what guarantee do you have that somebody else won't???
    
    So when you find your partner in your best friend's arms or hear they are getting married to someone you had guaranteed was just a "rebound trip" three months after you let them go without a fight... Don't cry... Coz while you were busy playing games... Somebody else wasn't!
    
    Love without reservations; live without regrets.
    
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27. the short cut that lovers took on love trail/journey
    
    Created by: chisusu lion | Date: 11:37:00 AM | 09 Jan 2010 | Comments(1)
    
    

    by my experience  i was in relationship for 14 years ,me and my ex had 3 kids and i am not Ashamed by what  i went through that life ,truelly been poor is an slow pushing process to impress you lover as when she comes she need to  change everything the set-up and the eating habit ,with me it was different we loved each with no obstacles ,hell broke loss when i went to joburg to look for greener pasture ,thats when i learnt that been bitchy is with every woman ,is that some woman respect themselves for the good to come . life  was good in joburg and when it comes to money was not enough to cover all the fast track  life my ex was travelling on ,i bought the rings the costume  and the gown for a small wedding combined by her birthday .that didnt happen as she had her bigger picture herself.she start to have secret bedding session with a very small boy 5 years younger .

    the point is sticking to your heart-choosen boy/girlfriend is rewarding as long you have  passed adolescent  stage  that means been matured and doesnt mean partner changing as your body as well  stick to the habit one is living .so many respected woman that we grown respecting and adores  are today single and manless as they thought been educated and beautiful means disrespecting men.one can have all toys but human -being is very satisfying i mean it  for real.

    PLEASE PEOPLE LET  ALL LOVE THE  THAT GOD HAS GIVEN US FREE OF CHARGE AND STOP MONOPOLIZING  LOVE AS FOR YEARS AND YEARS WAS FOR FREE.JUST TAKE A LOOK HOW HOBBOS AND EVEN RETARD PEOPLE LOVE EACH.YOU THINK YOUR NORMAL BUT YOU CANT LOVE THE FREE LOVE.

    cheers,i hope the olden love will be mixed with modern love to brew it so that we can all love the love that need to be loved by two lovers not three,three by mutual aggreement and custom like our president .

    
    
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28. Surviving hard times - Maximise your prospects of getting a job
    
    Created by: sedzani Nkhumeleni | Date: 13:53:00 PM | 05 Jan 2010 | Comments(1)
    
    

    THE beginning of the new year – after a very difficult 2009 for job seekers – offers a good opportunity to review and fine-tune every element of an employment search, from resumés to thank-you notes.

    While you might be doing almost everything right, neglecting or mishandling just one or two pieces of the process could keep you from getting a job, especially in this ultra-competitive market.

    Here is a checklist that covers some of the major links in the job- search chain:

    THE RESUMÉ

    When was the last time you took a word-by-word, letter-by-letter look at your CV?

    Make sure it’s completely up to date and tailored to the types of jobs you are seeking. After all, your situation might have changed since you started looking. Now is also the time to create alternate versions, to reflect different types of positions.

    Have someone else look at your CV. Alison Doyle, a job search specialist for About.com, which is owned by The New York Times Company, says that if you cannot afford a career coach, give your CV to friends or family members to scrutinise.

    Little things count. You could have overlooked a typo or some other error. This happens more than you might think, and “it can knock you right out of the running”, Doyle says. And have copies of your CV printed, so you’re ready to hand them over at interviews, she says.

    REFERENCES

    If you have not talked to your references lately, call them or send an e-mail. Make sure they are still in the same jobs, and tell them you’re still looking.

    This helps expand your network, because references may know of job openings. It’s also a good time to consider whether to add or remove some people as references.

    COVER LETTERS

    Maybe you’ve set up a few basic templates in advance, but that’s not enough.

    Each cover letter you write should be geared specifically to the job for which you are applying.

    WARDROBE

    Check your closet to ensure that you have appropriate professional attire, including shoes, ready for interviews.

    ONLINE PRESENCE

    Check and update your LinkedIn profile and make sure that it’s consistent with the information in your CV and any other online presence you have, Doyle says.

    Hiring managers look at LinkedIn, and any discrepancies could be red flags, she says.

    Review your contacts on LinkedIn and reach out to new ones. Check whether anyone new can write a recommendation for you on the site. And, while you’re at it, Google yourself and check Khoro or other social networks to make sure that nothing embarrassing shows up.

    NETWORKING

    Do not isolate yourself for days on end. Network through e-mail messages, phone calls, coffee, lunch, appointments and meetings.

    Julie Morgenstern, a productivity consultant in New York, recommends setting up some kind of in-person meeting every day during the week.

    This helps bring structure to your day, keeps you in touch with the outside world and prevents you from becoming complacent or depressed, she says.

    APPLYING

    A glance at huge online job sites isn’t usually the best way to find jobs. You are more likely to succeed through people you know or meet through networking, or through professional or alumni associations.

    When you look for jobs online, Doyle recommends these sites because they collect job listings from sources like company web sites: jobspace.co.za, ananzi.com and allsouthafricajobs.com.

    THE FOLLOW-UP

    These days, it is common to apply for a job and not receive a reply from the company. Without being a pest, take the initiative by following up with a phone call a week or so after you apply.

    If no name is listed on the job posting, use research skills to find one.

    Or, if you know someone at the company, check whether that person will put in a word for you.

    INTERVIEWS

    If you are getting plenty of interviews but no return calls or job offers, take a ruthless look at your interviewing skills.

    This is one area where investing in a career coach may pay off, Doyle says.

    But if you can’t afford one, try to find a job group or service that conducts free mock interviews.

    In addition, the same day that you have an interview, make sure to send a thank-you note by e-mail or regular mail.

    SUPPORT SYSTEMS

    Finally, recognise that looking for a job – especially in a market like this – can take a psychological toll. But don’t take it personally if your job hunt is taking a long time.

    Many excellent job candidates, victims of the economic downturn, are in the same boat now.

    A job hunt is often about rejection – and that can be hard to endure. Staying in touch with family, friends, professional networks and fellow job seekers can help you maintain a positive attitude and a sense of perspective.

    In this job market, job seekers need all the help they can get, practical or otherwise.

    “Don’t be afraid to get help if somebody’s willing to give it to you,” Doyle says. – Reuters

    
    
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29. What is khoro.com and how does it work?
    
    Created by: Moderate Goal Thinker | Date: 11:34:00 AM | 21 Nov 2009 | Comments(6)
    
    

     

    Khoro.com is a new South African based social network site which was founded in April 2009, with selected people invited for testing purposes.

     

    When khoro.com was started, the main purpose was to have a social network that will unify Africa as a continent, hoping that we will be more tolerant towards each other and stop xenophobic attacks if we interact with each other socially.

     

    Khoro.com is targeted at people who prefer to Socialise in an African way.   When we say we are doing it the African way, we mean Khoro.com will try by all means to make people socialize in an authentic way, no poking, pillow fights etc. Khoro.com does not restrict access to anyone and it’s not limited to Africans only, at the moment we have more than 13 countries that access khoro.com on a daily basis, including countries such as US, UK, Australia, China and more.

     

    Khoro.com members create a profile page that shows their friends and information about themselves. Members are able to search for friends and relatives by e-mail address or names. When people become friends, they are able to see each others' profiles. E-mail notifications let members know when new friends have invited them or accepted their friend requests.

     

    Whilst we are proud of what other social networks are doing, khoro.com is not in any way trying to carbon copy these social networks, our objectives are completely different from theirs.

     

    Khoro.com’s main aim is to discuss meaningful topics, solve each other problems in real-time, Khoro.com, by design it forces you to be a participant on topics as it focuses more on dialogue, not monologue, on Khoro.com you don’t update your status and expect people to only respond after 10 hours, it’s real-time, you update your status, people ask questions and you respond.

    
    

    Popular features on khoro.com are:

     

    • Wall- here you tell all your friends what you are thinking about and they respond to you immediately
    • Groups- members create groups in which they socialise and discuss various topics, you can either join a group through invite from a friend or join it without any invite
    • Forums- Members use khoro.com support forum to help each other use khoro.com better by asking questions on various problems they experience, e.g. “How do I upload photos on mobile?”
      We also have various forums which members discuss different topic e.g Politics, sports & entertainment, Fashion & beauty and more
    •    Articles- members create awareness through articles
    •    Photos- members create their own photo albums and share their photos with friends

     

    Some members have started organising a monthly social gathering, known as khoro event, where they meet and replicate what they do online, its organised by Rally Nemavhola.
    

    
    

    Khoro.com can be accessed using both mobile phone and PC. Khoro is an African word which means courtyard.
    

    
    

    Khoro.com will be officially launched in the first quarter of 2010.

    
    

    At the moment Khoro.com is still owned by MadiaSoft Technologies cc, only two people are actively involved, Ntsieni Thabela�responsible for marketing & branding and Madia Thomas responsible for technical stuff, until launch were it will be registered as a separate company.

     

     
    

    What's more?

    Register and find out for yourself

     

    
    
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30. Marriage Software Division
    
    Created by: Mr-T Thaba | Date: 10:14:00 AM | 19 Nov 2009 | Comments(4)
    
    This is what a guy wrote to a systems analyst
    
    Dear Systems Analyst,
    
    I am desperate for some help! I recently upgraded my program from Girlfriend 7.0 to Wife 1.0 and found that the new program began unexpected Child Processing and also took up a lot of space and valuable resources.
    
    This wasn't mentioned in the product brochure. In addition Wife 1.0 installs itself into all other programs and launches during systems initialization and then it monitors all other system activities.
    
    Applications such as "Boys' Night out 2.5" and "Golf 5.3" no longer run, and crashes the system whenever selected. Attempting to operate selected "Saturday Rugby 6.3" always fails and "Saturday Shopping 7.1" runs instead.
    I cannot seem to keep Wife 1.0 in the background whilst attempting to run any of my favorite applications. Be it online or offline.
    
    I am thinking of going back to "Girlfriend 7.0", but uninstall doesn't work on this program. Can you please help?
    
    ... AND THIS IS WHAT THE ANALYST SAID:
    
    Dear Customer,
    
    This is a very common problem resulting from a basic misunderstanding of the functions of the Wife 1.0 program. Many customers upgrade from Girlfriend 7.0 to Wife 1.0 thinking that Wife 1.0 is merely a UTILITY AND ENTERTAINMENT PROGRAM. Actually, Wife 1.0 is an OPERATING SYSTEM designed by its Creator to run everything on your current platform.
    
    You are unlikely to be able to purge Wife 1.0 and still convert back to Girlfriend 7.0, as Wife 1.0 was not designed to do this and it is impossible to uninstall, delete or purge the program files from the System once it is installed.
    
    Some people have tried to install Girlfriend 8.0 or Wife 2.0 but have ended up with even more problems. (See manual under Alimony/Child Support and Solicitors' Fees).
    
    Having Wife 1.0 installed, I recommend you keep it Installed and deal with the difficulties as best as you can. When any faults or problems occur, whatever you think has caused them, you must run the C:\ APOLOGIZE\ FORGIVE ME.EXE Program and avoid attempting to use the *Esc-Key for it will freeze the entire system.
    
    It may be necessary to run C:\ APOLOGIZE\ FORGIVE ME.EXE a number of times, and eventually hope that the operating system will return to normal..
    
    Wife 1.0, although a very high maintenance programme, can be very rewarding. To get the most out of it, consider buying additional Software such as "Flowers 2.0" and "Chocolates 5.0" or "HUGS\ KISSES 600.0" or "TENDERNESS\ UNDERSTANDING 1000.0" or even Eating out without the Kids 7.2.1" (if Child processing has already started).
    
    DO NOT under any circumstances install "Secretary 2.1" (Short Skirt Version) or "One Nightstand 3.2" (Any Mood Version), as this is not a supported Application for Wife 1.0 and the system will almost certainly CRASH.
    
    BEST WISHES
    
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